The October issue of Oprah Magazine has an interesting article by Cathie Black. Ms. Black is the President of Hearst Magazines. She has written a book called Basic Black: The Essential Guide for Getting Ahead at Work (and in Life) which gives advice on how to build a great career.
I read the article and believe that Ms. Black’s advice is great common sense – for anyone interested in becoming a career and life success, for leaders and for entrepreneurs. Here is an overview of her Seven Rules for a Really Big Career.
- Take risks that are calculated, not crazy.
- The worst-case scenario is rarely as bad as you think.
- Don’t personalize things that aren’t personal.
- It’s best in the long run to make yourself a grudge-free zone.
- Be generous with praise and careful with criticism.
- Know the rules, so you know which ones to break.
- It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to get permission.
These are seven common sense rules that I really like. I really like rule 3 – “don’t personalize things that aren’t personal.” How true. Many people are quite narcissistic. They think that every thing that happens – positive and negative – in their lives is somehow a direct result of someone acting in a manner that is designed to either help or hurt them.
This simply is not true. We all have to get over ourselves. Most people don’t wake up in the morning and say to themselves, “I’m going to do everything I can to make Bud’s – or your – life miserable today.” I always advise people to assume good intentions on the part of others. If you do, you’ll find that a lot of things that you believe were directed at you, were just the other person’s way of doing his of her job.
The common sense point for today is simple. Pay attention to all of Cathie Black’s rules. But pay the closest attention to rule number 3 – “don’t personalize things that aren’t personal” – and you’ll be able to build better relationships with the people you lead and those with whom you do business.
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