Self confidence is one of the keys to personal and professional success that I discuss in several of my books: Straight Talk for Success, Your Success GPS and 42 Rules to Jumpstart Your Professional Success. If you want to become self confident you need to do three things. First, choose optimism. Second, face your fears and act. Third, surround yourself with positive people.
The other day, I saw quote about self confidence and success from Dr. Joyce Brothers…
“Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.”
Great common sense advice. And, a great starting point for success.
I find that affirmations are a great way to begin thinking of yourself as a success. Affirmations are positive self talk. The idea behind affirmations is that if you think of the things to which you aspire, like being successful in your life and career, and tell yourself that you are successful, then you will believe that you can become successful. More importantly, you will be more likely to do the work it takes to make that aspiration come true.
My eBook, Star Power, was my first attempt at writing about career and life success. It is based on a model that has five points. I use a star to depict this model. In Star Power, I discussed how to become a career and life star. I like the star metaphor, so I created an affirmation for myself around it. Daily, I repeat the following affirmation to myself: “Bud Bilanich is a star.”
I’ve done a lot of working in making this affirmation a reality – writing more books, redoing my website, developing better promotional materials, blogging etc.
I’ve also done something a little unusual. In 2006, I went to the Name a Star website and named a star after myself. Now I can say “Bud Bilanich is a star” and really believe it, because Bud Bilanich really is a star.
Bud Bilanich, the star, is Catalog Number TYC 868-1011-1 in the constellation Leo. Bud Bilanich, the star, has a Visual Magnitude indicator of 11.2. Right Ascension is 11h 58m 21s. Declination is 11degrees, 43,’18.”
I don’t have a clue what all of these things mean, except the constellation Leo, which I chose because my birthday is August 14. But I do know one thing. Bud Bilanich is a star!
How’s that for an affirmation?
Affirmations work. And you don’t have to go to the lengths I did to make them work. Just decide what you want, visualize yourself as having it, and tell yourself you have it. Then do whatever it takes to make that affirmation come true. The last part is the most important, so I’ll say it again…Do whatever it takes to make your affirmations come true.
The common sense point here is simple. Successful people are self confident. As Dr. Joyce Brothers points out, success is a state of mind. Self confident people create a positive and successful state of mind because they think of themselves as successful. When they feel their confidence slipping, successful people use affirmations to reinforce their belief in themselves and their positive state of mind. A positive state of mind, self confidence and affirmations create a situation where you’ll be more likely to do the work you need to do to succeed. In other words, start with a positive state of mind, use affirmations to maintain your self confidence and keep working hard – and you’ll become a personal and professional success.
That’s my take on a positive state of mind, self confidence and success. What’s yours? Please leave a comment sharing your thoughts with us. As always, thanks for reading.